Jeanean Gendron, Your Shasta County Real Estate Specialist: Christoper Rule Schurr ~ Sharing My Christopher ~ He Was Full of Life and Laughter!

Christoper Rule Schurr ~ Sharing My Christopher ~ He Was Full of Life and Laughter!

ChrisAs many of you know, my son left this world on March 16, 2008. I shared my pain and wrote a tribute to my son. I so appreciate the condolences and love that came my way in our time of loss. As each day passes and I grieve, I also celebrate the beauty of my son and all that he was. I wanted to share some of the sweetness of who he was and bring to you the presence and nature of this sweet boy. I feel that you deserve to know him better and that it will be a way of saying thank you for helping me through this time.

These photos are from an album that Chris had next to his bed. They are a collection of photos that he put together himself and represent how he saw himself and the people he loved.

Chris wrote on this photo on the back "When you think of me, remember this picture. I was happy, healthy and full of life when this was taken. I remember it well. First fish on my Scott rod, with a fly I tied myself. First time!"

Chris was such a sweet child. He loved his big sister very much and always wanted to be with her. He followed her around and always thought of her in everything he did. When we would be out somewhere and someone would give him something...a piece of candy or other little thing....he would always ask "Can I have one for my sister." Of course, he was always a bother to his sister, Stacy. As is so often the case with siblings, they were close however and pretty much where ever Stacy was.....Christopher was near by. When his sister went away to college, he followed her down to Cal Poly...San Luis Obispo and her friends became his friends.

babiesHe was quite the athlete and played soccer and went to Far Westerns in the backstroke 400 meter races. He had so much heart and he was a natural. He would often times after the race....exit the pool to walk to the side of the pool for bushes that he could throw up in. That's how hard he pushed himself. In soccer as goalie....he knew no fear and scared me constantly on the amazing dives and saves he made. He was so fearless in life.

He was a fly fisherman extraordinaire and poetry in motion. He was such a natural, knowing and understanding the hunting aspect of the true fly fisherman. He read the "River Why", "The Complete Angler" and other beautiful books on fly fishing. We knew the best days of our lives up in the "high country" of Yosemite fishing the rivers and creeks. We had all of nature around us and we three knew the connection to all things. We are so blessed to have these memories. I live them each day in my heart and hold on to them. It was the best of times.

brothersHe was a connoisseur of eclectic music and loved jazz. He taught me about music and found those beautiful old jazz songs that I loved. I couldn't enjoy the more progressive jazz but he was good at finding music for me that opened up my world to Latin and music from Cuba. He love to play guitar and taught himself. He lived for music.

This photo is of Chris' brothers, Joel McIntosh and Donnie McIntosh. My daughter is married to Joel. Joel was Chris' best friend and he was adopted by the McIntosh brothers and referred to as a brother. He loved them all very much. Joel was the only other person that I believe Chris was as close to as he was to me. He would have done anything for his brothers. Chris is in the middle, Joel to the right and Donnie to the left.

NeanieHe love fish. When he was little....for some reason I bought him a fish tank. As I now remember, he was afraid of the dark and so I thought if we had a fish tank with a light that he it would help him not be afraid. It worked as I remember. We fixed it up so cute with a treasure chest and a diver that went up and down and we put plastic plants and had a good back ground picture on the tank...it was little tank but very magical and he loved it so. At night it was so charming. Well, all his life he loved to have fish tanks and became quite the expert on fish and growing live plants. He has a book of all the details he kept track of and a day-by-day account of all the fish and plants and how they thrived. I should publish the book.

This photo of me is when I was pregnant with Stacy. I do not know why he chose this photo of me.

He was such a thoughtful person. He always watched me to see how he could help me. I would come home and he would have cooked dinner or cooked food for my lunches. He did most of the grocery shopping for our family in order to help me. He did all the yard work for us and tired so hard to be responsible and helpful.

young ChrisYou can see how much we resembled each other. This is a photo of me as a young girl. I have many photos of Chris that look like me. There is a photo of me in a formal at the piano and it looks like Chris in a formal. We were pretty much two peas in a pod.

I don't know exactly how or when we lost him. I am not going to focus onneanie that for now. I probably have a book to write about this beautiful boy and how we lost him. He has touched many people and it will become important for me to tell the story of Christopher in the hopes that it might help another family save their child.

smileI appreciate all the love and care that came my way in the days of late. You were kind and I appreciate it. I just wanted to share my boy with you. It is a gift from me to you. Thank you from my heart.

This photo captures the real Chris. This was a smile that was constant. I shall see him in my mind's eye with this smile for the rest of my days on this earth. This is my beautiful boy.

These photos were in an album next to Chris' bed and represent the loves of his life. He left them to me as a legacy and wrote the legacy on the first photo above. I love him so and I shall forever be richer for having had this beautiful boy in my life. Thank you all from my heart which is so filled with love. I have created a blog in memory of Christopher and in the hopes that it will be a place where people can share and find some comfort.

Comments

Jeanean, my heart aches for your loss, yet celebrates with you at the beauty of your son and all that he brought (and still brings) to your life.

 

Posted by Kris Wales - Macomb County MI real estate blog & homes for sale search site (Keller Williams Realty - Lakeside Market Center) over 2 years ago

Your son was a true blessing.  Bless you and your family.  

Posted by Mary Luz-Johnsen (Home Choice Real Estate, Inc) over 2 years ago
Jeanean. I am so sorry to hear of your loss, I cannot imagine how you feel, but know it is difficult. You are focusing in the right area - you must celebrate the joys he brougtht to you and your family. It will always hurt, but keep on thinking of the good things, and talk about them. This will help you. Good luck! - Ray
Posted by Ray Wilson - NYS Licensed Inspector (Meticulous Home Inspection Corporation) over 2 years ago
Jeanean, What a wonderful, insightful tribute to Chris. I know he is in heaven watching over you now celebrating his life. Imagine how proud he must be.
Posted by Kathryn Tharp ~ Rancho Cucamonga Real Estate Specialist (Realtor) over 2 years ago
I have a son and cannot even imagine what you are going thru. Thanks for the ppost and we include you in our thought and prayers
Posted by Charlie- All Mountain Realty over 2 years ago
Jeanean- your post brought tears to my eyes. I don't know what to say except that I am truly sorry for your loss.  What a beautiful spirit your son is.  I have a son as well, and I couldn't imagine my life without him.  I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.  God Bless.
Posted by Laura Karambelas-Chicagoland Real Estate (Baird & Warner) over 2 years ago

Jeanean - I missed this and I'm so sorry!!  I can't even let myself imagine the place you are in right now.  It's too painful to try.  I'm crying for you.  My heart is broken for you. 

Beautiful boy

I will visualize the white light of peace around his soul and around your heart.  I will pray that you reach a point of healing and calm.  Just breathe, Jeanean, just breathe.

Posted by Elaine Hanson, REALTORĀ® ~ Topanga, CA Real Estate Agent (Snyder Sutton Real Estate) over 2 years ago

Jeanean, I had missed this about your son. I don't even know what to say. We have twin boys turning 32 next month and I can't even imagine the pain of losing one.

You are in my prayers. And just know that God has a special place for his special children. Your son may have suffered in this world but rest assured he suffers no more. He is now a prince in the Kingdom that matters. 

Posted by Bryant Tutas-Tutas Towne Realty, Inc over 2 years ago
Dear Jeanean, i was just clicking through Blog Rush when I came across your post.  I must admit it caught me by surprise much like a deer in headlights.  First off, I want to offer you and your beautiful family my condolences and prayers.  It was a very touching post that will cause me to squeeze my 2 little boys a little bit tighter and tell them how much I truly love them 2 or 3 extra times tomorrow and maybe I wont even give a sh*t if they turn the house upside down (they're 3.5 & 5 years old).  I just want you to know that your words from California touched me and had an impact in my life her in Canada.  THANK YOU and God Bless.  Best, -Sash
Posted by Sasha Miletic - Windsor Real Estate (RE/MAX Preferred Realty Ltd.) over 2 years ago
Jeanean - This is a lovely tribute to your boy, and I thank you for having the courage to share this.  I am planning to feature your post in the Family Ties wrapup, which I hope to finish tonight.
Posted by Jason Crouch, Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (512-796-7653) (Austin Texas Homes, LLC) over 2 years ago
Jeanean - Thank you for sharing such a beautiful and touching tribute to your wonderful son.  I can tell that you were specially chosen to be his Mom.  God bless you and your family.
Posted by Lynn Johnson, Owatonna, MN Real Estate (Coldwell Banker Home Connection) over 2 years ago
God bless your son. I will remember Chris in my prayers.
Posted by Blogger To Be Named Later over 2 years ago
Jeanean, This is a beautiful tribute to Christopher. Looks like you had a special relationship with your wonderful son. I have 2 boys and can't imagine life without them. I will say a prayer for you and your family.
Posted by Roberta LaRocca REALTORĀ® Las Vegas Broker Salesperson Property Management (Encore Realty Group - EncoreRealtyGp.com) over 2 years ago
Jeanean - I am so sorry for your loss, words cannot express how I feel right now.  Know that my thoughs and prayers will be with you over the next months as you grieve this loss.
Posted by Mary Warren (Referring Agent) over 2 years ago
Dear Hearts, thank you so much for spending time here. It's hard for me to read the comments. I usually cry...but I think that is good. I have identified a grief counseling group that I plan to attend. I find myself staring at the wall a lot. I need to talk and don't want to bother my work buds. My husband is going to participate as well. It will come in slow steps. I have to say that AR has been my haven of refuge....where else could I have expressed and celebrated the wonderful person that my son was. It has brought to me some kind of peace in creating a memorial and sharing Chris' legacy. I am a spiritual person and I hold on to the goodness of our lives and that he is at peace. I thank you all for the comfort and care you have given so graciously. I love you all very much. 
Posted by Jeanean Gendron ~ Redding & Shasta County Specialist (Coldwell Banker C & C) over 2 years ago
Jeanean, I am so sorry for the loss of your son, I cannot imagine what you are going through. This is a beautiful tribute to Chris; he had all that was precious to him in his album. I'm glad you'll be attending a group, you do need to talk especially with others that best relate to your grief. God Bless.
Posted by Debbie Malone, Realtor Lynchburg, Smith Mountain Lake VA (RE/MAX 1st Olympic Realtors) over 2 years ago
I somehow missed the story of this tragedy, Jeanean.  I will have to go back and find that original post now.  I am at a complete loss as to knowing how one offers appropriate condolences in such an instance.  This is far too great a burden for any parent to shoulder, and I wish you all the strength at your disposal to make it through the darkest moments.  This resonates deeply with me on several level.  First of all, Chris doesn't sound all that different from me.  I have a big sister that I am very close to.  I played soccer for years and love to fly fish.  It affects me even more deeply, though, when I consider my very own sons.  Only 2 and a half and one, they are so full of the life and exuberance that Chris was.  I can't fathom one of them leaving this world before me.  I am so very sorry to have missed your suffering for this long, and can only trust that you have had a throng of well wishers and supporters to prop you up throughout this most trying ordeal.  My very best wishes and deepest sympathies.
Posted by Paul Slaybaugh, Scottsdale AZ Real Estate (Realty Executives) over 2 years ago

Jeanean - My heartfelt condolences and prayers are being sent your way and heaven-ward.  I am so very sorry for your loss of Christoper. 

I'm looking forward to reading more about Christopher and celebrating his life with you.  Thank you for sharing him where he lives, in your heart.  

Jackie

Posted by Jackie Peraza, Home Stager - Framingham, Massachusetts (Perceptions AdverStaging(TM), LLC) over 2 years ago

Jeanean, I found this post after reading Jasons week of tributes! I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your son. I can only imagine, and I don't even want to think about it. A son and his mother are very close. I know, I have two sons and my heart would be breaking right now as yours clearly is. I think that joining a grief counseling group is a wonderful idea. This is one of those times that you must reach out and get help! And what a heartfelt tribute to a son that must have given you years of pleasure! Memories can be very painful, but they can also be a blessing. Hold them close.

My sincere condolences.

Posted by Karen Hurst ~ Principal Broker ~ Warwick ~ Rhode Island (Stonehurst Realty) over 2 years ago

Dear Friends,

I continue to thank each and every one of you for your kindness and words of condolence and hope. I am feeling more integrated each day with allowing this thing that has happened to us. I feel his presence in my heart and in all I do. I still get tears at times I am not expecting...however I am doing better.  We were so close in life that I am feeling that closeness come as I accept this change. He will always be with me. Every smile I have and each kindness and love that comes from my heart is born of the love I had for my beautiful son and the joy, kindness and love he had for me. I am so blessed to have had this beautiful soul in my life. I shall devote my life to selfless service and love for all things. I just can't reply on an individual basis. I do appreciate every comment and I take each one into my heart.

Thank you so much for your kind words.  

Posted by Jeanean Gendron ~ Redding & Shasta County Specialist (Coldwell Banker C & C) over 2 years ago
What a beautiful way to honor and celebrate your son's life. You are blessed to have his soul touch your life.
Posted by Shannon Aldrich ~ NH & Maine Real Estate Seacoast (Keller Williams Coastal Realty) over 2 years ago

Another beautiful post about your lovely son.  You keep bringing my cousin Silas to my mind, not that he's ever far from it.  He was such a good, kind person and fought his mental illness so hard.  Thank you for sharing this wonderful person with us.

Posted by Chris Fisher of StagersLISTWebsites.com (StagersLIST.com) over 2 years ago

Jeanean, My heart breaks for you and the pain you are going through. I did not know until now about your loss. What a wonderful relationship you had with Chris. You showed him unconditional live and compassion, God bless you. Take comfort in knowing that Chris is whole and free and walking in joy and peace.

I am sending you a big hug, take care

Ginger 

Posted by Wilmington NC Real Estate & Relocation~ Ginger & Roger Sala (Wilkinson & Associates, Wilmington NC) over 2 years ago
Chris, thanks for taking the time to share my son. I seem to be connecting with so many people who have a Chris or a Silas in their lives....all beautiful and sweet souls. Together just by sharing we are helping each other and hopefully something good will come of it. I intend to try and raise local public awareness about the mentally ill and how alone they are. It is a beginning and I am looking forward to joining NAMI. They are all there to help people.
Posted by Jeanean Gendron ~ Redding & Shasta County Specialist (Coldwell Banker C & C) over 2 years ago
Ginger, thank you for your good words. They are a comfort. I am making progress and can feel my heart accepting and allowing that he is in a better place and that he can be loved beyond any comprehension. The loss of him on the physical plane is so hard...but knowing he is in a better place...as you said of joy and peace...helps me so. Thank you.
Posted by Jeanean Gendron ~ Redding & Shasta County Specialist (Coldwell Banker C & C) over 2 years ago

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